We’re home on our farm in Germany again after the summer in the UK. We returned to a veg patch that had gone wild with courgettes, tomatoes and cucumbers galore, and an amazing harvest of pumpkins that I can’t wait to roast in the oven and sprinkle with crumbly, sharp feta. Just delicious. I’ve planted spinach that will last as the weather cools, and soon it’ll be time to clear the beds, tidy things away for winter, climb ladders to clear the gutters before the frost sets in, and keep on top of the yard — sweeping leaves, stacking wood, [...]

If there is a correct way to do personal development, I’m definitely not doing it. I haven’t done any real structured exercise in three weeks. Not a single stretch, no strength circuit. I also haven’t journalled, meal prepped, or done anything you’d find on a morning routine Pinterest board. Instead, I’ve been coaching brilliant humans, planting veggies, bingeing Stranger Things with my kid, writing a psychotherapy assignment that slightly fried my brain, and stacking a LOT of wood. There’s this idea floating around out there that we should be able to do everything — exercise regularly, stay calm and present, [...]

Every Sunday morning, I get up early and head to a coffee shop in town. It’s a quiet ritual. The streets are mostly empty, the same friendly barista is always on shift, and I sit in the same corner with a flat white and my laptop, hoping the words will come. It’s my favourite kind of writing time: early, quiet, no pressure. Just me, the coffee, and whatever wants to be said. This morning, a woman walked in and was — in my opinion — rude. Snappy tone. No eye contact. Treated the barista behind the counter like they were [...]

If you’re one of my clients, you’ll know we’ve recently had a new kitchen put in at our flat here in the UK. I’ve had to work from all corners of the flat, dodging the burly, loud builders as best I could—drills going, radios blaring, someone always shouting “Mate, pass me the saw!” Ambience: zero. Some days I escaped entirely and set up in friends’ spare rooms, trying to find a bit of calm. More than one client has asked, mid-session, “Where are you today?” So when the dust finally settled—literally and emotionally—I thought, “Right. I’m going to tile the [...]

A quick heads-up before we get into it: This one touches on body image, weight, and food guilt. If that’s a sensitive spot for you right now, please read gently—or skip it altogether if that’s what you need. No pressure, ever. Yesterday, I sat next to a woman in a café. As I placed my order, she pointed at my cake and said, “That looks amazing. I wish I could allow myself to eat that.” Now, I’m curious by nature (some might say nosy—but let’s go with curious), so I asked, “Well, why can’t you?” She sighed. “Because I’ll feel [...]

In 2015, our son was just four months old, and I was standing at a pivot point in my career. I was still working in a job while growing my coaching business on the side. I could feel it—I was right on the edge of my business becoming truly viable, of it being the thing that could fully support us. But I was stretched thin, living in London with my wife, both of us working long hours and quickly realising that the life we had built just wouldn’t be possible anymore as a family. So we made a huge decision. [...]

Have you ever caught yourself doing something over and over, even though you know it’s not helping, but you just can’t seem to stop? Maybe you’re endlessly scrolling on your phone, dodging that uncomfortable task or ordering takeaway again because, let’s face it, you just can’t be arsed cooking tonight. You’re not alone. One of the most valuable insights I’ve gained from over a decade of working with clients is this: You can’t really stop or change a behaviour until you figure out why you're doing it in the first place. Everything we do—even the habits that make us roll [...]