A few weeks ago I went to an event I absolutely did not want to go to. You know when you agree to something weeks earlier because Future You seems like a very upbeat, socially capable person? Then Actual You arrives on the day standing in the hallway in a coat, already tired, wondering if you could fake a migraine convincingly enough to get out of it. That was me. But off I went anyway because life is complicated and sometimes you genuinely can’t tell in advance whether something is going to drain you or do you good. Every now [...]